Marshall Bwanya Cool Lifestyle Writer
We all at some point experience accidents, disasters or tragedies that are beyond human control.
In the event of an accident or tragedy people are overwhelmed by emotions. Most people are caught in a prolonged state of shock that alters their normal chain of thought.
Psychologists refer the negative shocking emotional response to a sudden accident, tragedy or disaster as trauma. There are many cases where people blame an accident or unfortunate event as the reason for their delinquent behaviour.
Most young people love to use the cliché “you do not know what I am going through” to support their unwarranted actions.
Trauma has negative effects on people such as sudden flashbacks, hysteria and symptoms of mental illness. It is not easy to embrace reality when a bad event has occurred and some people live in denial.
A student at the Midlands State University, Leopard Munhende (22), said he was traumatised by his father’s death but his relatives and friends supported him through thick and thin.
“There were many instances when my emotions spontaneously overwhelmed me, prompting me to act impulsively or recklessly.
“But my family was there to offer me moral and emotional support to come to terms with reality that a tragedy cannot be solved by abusing drugs,” he said.
Fortune Ngwenya (24) from Bulawayo said the loss of his parents in the space of one year negatively impacted on him that he saw no meaning to life.
“The loss of parents tore me apart that I started drinking heavily and made reckless decisions.
“At some point I realised that unless I changed my mentality about the situation my life was would revolving around the same cycle of defeat and failure. I changed the way I think about situations and stopped being self absorbed and feeling for myself and started setting my mind on constructive things,” he said.
When tragedy strikes some people take it hard and resort to smoking, drugs and alcohol as a way of escaping or dealing with the trauma.
Family and friends are there to help you to pass through your darkest moments.
Counselling is essential part to alleviate the anxieties of a traumatising event.
Multichoice Zimbabwe public relations officer Elizabeth Dziva said when suffering from trauma one should seek immediate counselling.
“When you are facing difficulties overcoming a tragic event it is not good to bottle up emotions like a robot, but you should let people that are close to you to know what you are feeling and going through.
“A person cannot deal with tragic events on their own. At some point in time I was also going through a rough patch but someone who I was able to relate to offered me spiritual guidance to overcome my challenges,” she said.
The ideal thing is to overcome whatever tragic event by responding in a positive way and become a living testimony for someone who is going to go through that similar situation.
A person has to make a conscious decision to act responsibly when tragedy strikes.
Bad things happen to everyone henceforth one should not always ask why they go through bad patch.
It is okay to grieve or cry when you going through a rough time but it also a waste of time to spend all your time crying because it does not change the situation.
Emotions are what make us human but we should not be controlled or ruled by them. When you go through a rough time what you need to know is that it is not the end of the world but life goes on.
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